Ever wonder why some people act the way they do? Will they every change? What will it take? What causes people to posess such meanness? Do they get some kind of self esteem from hurting others? If I asked you to, you could probably think of at least one person who's hurt you. You may've even asked yourself one of those questions. And sincerely meant it. Wishing for an answer or solution.
I've learned one thing. YOU CAN'T CHANGE THEM. But one of these things can...1. Their own will power. And truthfully, people that intentionally hurt others don't have the self esteem or believe in themselves enough to actually make such a life change. My pastor says, "hurt people, hurt people." Crazy people hurt people too (I added that). So true though. People who are hurting don't want to hurt alone. So, they hurt others. 2. They experience a life changing event such as illness or the death of someone close. You'd never wish it on even your worst enemy. 3. God and conviction. And this is what you pray happens. God gets a hold of them. You've prayed it, I've prayed it. Lord, send conviction. Open their blind eyes. Help them to see their faults. And if this person is someone you truly want a relationship with or maybe even forced to have a relationship with (family, boss, coworker, etc.), you find yourself praying for them. Weekly, daily, and for some cases more than once a day. My childhood pastor preached a message titled, "Thank God for a mean woman." (Or man- if that's your case). Why? Because they keep you on your knees. Be thankful that they're keeping you in prayer and in relationship with the One who matters.
So, what else do you do? Being the loving person that you are you put up with it. And forgive it. Time and time again. Although apologies aren't made. And if they are, you're probably the one apologizing for their mistakes. Or for wrongs you've supposedly made. You walk on pins and needles around them-- making sure every move you make and every word you say is pleasing to them. Praying that nothing is misconstrued or turned into something you never meant. Sounding familiar? You even count your blessings. One week, no drama. Thank you, Lord. Two weeks, Hallelujah. One month, Praise the Lord. And so on.
For myself, I've reached a place in my life where all I do is pray. Lord, give me meaningful relationships. One's that are spiritually uplifting-- to both myself and others. And for the unhealthy relationships, no matter who they may be with, end them. Lord, you're in control.
"When I was a child, I spoke as a child,
I understood as a child, I thought as a child;
but when I became a man, I put away childish things." 1 Corinthians 13
I've learned one thing. YOU CAN'T CHANGE THEM. But one of these things can...1. Their own will power. And truthfully, people that intentionally hurt others don't have the self esteem or believe in themselves enough to actually make such a life change. My pastor says, "hurt people, hurt people." Crazy people hurt people too (I added that). So true though. People who are hurting don't want to hurt alone. So, they hurt others. 2. They experience a life changing event such as illness or the death of someone close. You'd never wish it on even your worst enemy. 3. God and conviction. And this is what you pray happens. God gets a hold of them. You've prayed it, I've prayed it. Lord, send conviction. Open their blind eyes. Help them to see their faults. And if this person is someone you truly want a relationship with or maybe even forced to have a relationship with (family, boss, coworker, etc.), you find yourself praying for them. Weekly, daily, and for some cases more than once a day. My childhood pastor preached a message titled, "Thank God for a mean woman." (Or man- if that's your case). Why? Because they keep you on your knees. Be thankful that they're keeping you in prayer and in relationship with the One who matters.
So, what else do you do? Being the loving person that you are you put up with it. And forgive it. Time and time again. Although apologies aren't made. And if they are, you're probably the one apologizing for their mistakes. Or for wrongs you've supposedly made. You walk on pins and needles around them-- making sure every move you make and every word you say is pleasing to them. Praying that nothing is misconstrued or turned into something you never meant. Sounding familiar? You even count your blessings. One week, no drama. Thank you, Lord. Two weeks, Hallelujah. One month, Praise the Lord. And so on.
For myself, I've reached a place in my life where all I do is pray. Lord, give me meaningful relationships. One's that are spiritually uplifting-- to both myself and others. And for the unhealthy relationships, no matter who they may be with, end them. Lord, you're in control.
"When I was a child, I spoke as a child,
I understood as a child, I thought as a child;
but when I became a man, I put away childish things." 1 Corinthians 13
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